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1. Treat Them Well!
The same rules of gentlemanly conduct that apply in life, apply to online dating. Women want to be treated like a lady; respect her and you’ll be a well on your way. If your rude and offensive, you’ll have very little success.

2. Lovers come and go - friends last forever.
While some women who are looking for a casual one-net stand can be found, most women want new online relationships to grow out of a friendship. Creating a safe and comfortable environment will encourage responses from her. Even the most sensuous encounters are still all about creating relationships. While not every woman you connect with online will be permanent, and they may not have the deepest emotional intimacy, the guidelines for good relationship building online are the same. Worst case scenario you’ve got a new friend. (For advice on going from friends to lovers, read this article).

3. Recognize the various stages of relationships
Different rules apply for each stage of seduction. Recognize what stage of the seduction you’re in: Stage One: Making Initial Contact. Second Stage: Flirting and Courtship. Third Stage: Getting Serious. Success comes to the man who recognizes what stage he is in.

4. Getting in the Door — the First Stage of Seduction.
The first stage is making contact and determining if the woman is interested in your attention. At this initial stage most woman are still very cautious, in “the no thank you” mode. Clearly, now is not the best time to be sending her direct, private or explicit messages, because she is still deciding if she is interested in you. Best bet is to establish a friendly connection first. Be sure she really wants to connect before you escalate your advances. Assuming you have determined that she is responding to you, the next step is establishing a connection that is personal to the two of you. The art of the first stage is knowing how to make it personal without making it too personal. It requires sensitivity to identify and respect where her boundaries are at each stage.

5. Making a Connection - The Second Stage of Seduction.
The best flirtation is like a good tennis match with both players going back and forth. If she is not responding at your pace, SLOW DOWN. There is no point in trying to `ace’ her at this stage of your (hopefully) budding relationship. Be interested in her, who she is, not what she is! Ask questions, but don’t make her feel like she’s the subject of police interrogation or college interview. Ask open-ended questions that can promote discussion and conversation rather as opposed to closed tend to lead to yes or no answers, perhaps bringing the conversation to a halt. Keep things flowing and natural. Always respond to her, never let a comment or question go by unanswered. If you don’t have an answer, speak up (softly). Don’t just be silent - it’s always easier to keep the connection going than it is to re-start it.

6. Moving to Stage Three: This isn’t Poker – Don’t Bluff
Be honest! If you don’t look like Brad Pitt, don’t mislead her? You might as well take the risk to find out if she is interested in who you really are. She’ll be very angry at you if she finds out later you have mislead her AT ALL – even on something trivial. Be truthful about your intentions with her at this stage. If you are not looking for a romance, don’t lead her on. If you have other important relationships on the net or in life, fill her in and keep her informed, otherwise there are bound to be hurt feelings. Ask her the same questions about her love life and intentions so each of you is on the same page and there are no surprises. It’s often best to reveal something about yourself FIRST and then ask her to do the same. Make sure to tell her how you feel; in the long run she’ll respect and trust you more for being open and honest.

7. Let her take the lead.
As you move through the levels, if possible, let her take the lead toward becoming more intimate. If she initiates deeper levels, you will know that this is what she really wants, and it will allow her to feel more in control of the situation. If a woman feels in charge she’s less likely to become afraid of more intensity. If she is shy, you can still help her feel in control by inviting her (see above tips) rather than force her. By now, both of you should have a good idea of what you want/are looking for from this relationship and can decide whether to up the intimacy and intensity or perhaps look elsewhere and part ways.

If you’ve followed the steps closely, you’ll have an open, honest dialogue where everyone knows what to expect and hurt feelings can be minimized if tings don’t work out. If they do, you’ve built a solid foundation for your new relationship!

When Jane Coloccia set out to find her soul mate online she had no idea that eight years and 200 dates later she would end up an expert on the topic, writing a book and setting up a course to teach the pitfalls of Web love.

Coloccia, now 45, was living in Manhattan and struggling to meet single, straight men when one of her friends met a man online and married him. She decided to give it a go.

Over the next few years, she was swamped with emails and instant messages from attentive men, some who told her she was beautiful, others who lied about their age, weight, hair, and marital status, and one who became her therapist.

Learning along the way how to spot the liars, Coloccia has written a book, “Confessions of an Online Dating Addict: A True Account of Dating and Relating in the Internet Age,” tracking the highs, lows — and addiction — of online dating. She is also developing an online course on Web dating.

Acknowledging the seductive nature of online personals, Coloccia believes that many single men and women are susceptible to the instant gratification of instant message or email compliments. Even typed-written sweet nothings purr through cyberspace.

Apparently, her assumption that web personal ads serves seduce a wide audience is correct. Recent figures observed by Jupiter Research indicate that internet matchmaking sites’ profits have risen by nearly doubled in the last three years. With expectations that revenues will grow by at least another 16% in the next four years, she has identified a market in need of guidance.

Sharing the scarier, more irritating and best dates of her personal match making experiences, she identifies the most likely dating pitfalls for would-be internet daters to avoid, including:

• Quickly rushing into traditional dating patterns
• Accepting outdated photos as proof of timely appearance
• Settling for online partners who inaccurately portray themselves, their looks or their marital status
• Being afraid to ask tough or potentially intrusive questions before meeting for a date
• Failing to thoroughly read the potential dater’s profile
• Ignoring the signs that the potential date is otherwise involved.

Coloccia explains that many singles looking for love in cyber space are tempted to show themselves young, firm, sexy and expertly coiffed. But old pictures belie a darker truth that things may not be what they seem. Single people who are comfortable with themselves inspire more comfortable dating situations for their significant others. Confident singles tell the truth, show themselves for who they are–weaknesses and attributes alike and answer honest questions without shame.

Furthermore, she warns that many potential partners hide behind their charming profiles, refusing to share photos, exchange numbers, or IM at times other than deepest, darkest night. Such behavior indicates that the romancer has something to hide from you or another significant other. Building on real life experience, she proves that proper internet matchmaking practices can lead to romantic success in real time and improper practices are a waste of time.

Yahoo! Canada Personals and eHarmony are two of the top online dating sites on the Internet. Which one should you choose? Learn more about the features of both and decide which of these online dating sites is right for you.

Yahoo! Canada Personals is a specifically targeted dating site, while eHarmony is aimed at creating relationships all over the world. With Yahoo, you get profile matching with people in your area that meet your criteria, not someone thousands of miles away. Yahoo! Canada Personals allows you to search freely for other members, and eHarmony makes matches for you based on compatibility principles revealed in a long and extensive personality profile. You have more freedom to contact members through Yahoo! Canada Personals, while you have to go through more waiting and forms with eHarmony.

Both services allow you to contact other members. Yahoo! Canada Personals offers contact through email or instant messages, while eHarmony uses a guided communication system involving specific questions that align with the eHarmony personality profile matching system. Only after you’ve completed guided communication, can you email your eHarmony match directly.

If the freedom and compatibility of Yahoo! Canada Personals appeals to you, but you’re interested in a more serious relationship, Yahoo offers a Premiere membership directed at individuals who’d like to find long-term relationships or even marriage.

eHarmony boasts the most marriages of any online dating site, and it is very focused on establishing long term relationships. Yahoo! Canada has options for people looking for serious relationships and even a marriage, as well as options for those looking to flirt, have some fun and keep their options more open.

The choice seems clear that Yahoo! Canada Personals offers more flexibility, compatibility and options than eHarmony does and looking at these different services it is clear why Yahoo has become Canada’s largest and hottest dating network.

Date.ca is the premier online dating site specifically for Canada. Each day there are huge numbers of members looking for their next true love.

Why is Date.ca is different from other dating sites, you might ask? The answer is that not only can you find high-quality singles, but also you’ll discover it’s a great place to find your real soul mates. Here, members don’t care about what your hairstyle is or what you wear; they just care about who you really are. You can be real on Date.ca.

Start writing your love story on Date.ca. First, you can get your free membership by sharing your basic personal information such as your personality and interests. Then you can search other members’ profiles, and find secret admirers with Click™, which is a go-between you and the singles you want to meet. When you find new singles piquing your interest then you can send a “Yes” to the right person. If there is a mutual “Yes,” Date.ca will notify both of you via a Click! Alert and you can start flirting or dating from there!

Of course, if you are not satisfied with the basic services, you can also upgrade to a premium membership at an affordable price. You will get even more access to the singles community such as: sending and receiving email, connecting through instant messages, meeting face-to-face with video chat, enjoying full access to message boards, creating customizable E-cards, and seeing your Astroscope compatibility. You’ll be surprised how much fun you can have with Date.ca.

So, why wait? You can build a new relationship at Date.ca. Join Date.ca today! It’s all about Canadian dating!

We all know that Yahoo! is the leading information site and has already drawn over 400 million people to its network. Because of this large network, it’s not hard to imagine how big and powerful Yahoo! Canada Personals is. Yahoo! Canada Personals is one of the top dating sites in Canada, and only getting better! You can meet people around your neighborhood, but also all over the world, depending on your interests.

Once you have a Yahoo account, you can start your free membership including searching for your potential mates and creating your profile. Then, you can begin to flirt and date, based on your compatibility. We especially recommend the “Real People” application. It is an incredible experience that can transfer you from a face in the crowd to an eye-catching spokesperson.

After you have your own profile, photos from daily life and your love stories posted, you will have the chance to become the new face of Yahoo! Personals. You will be treated like a Hollywood star and be the model for the Yahoo! ad. You can tell people how remarkable your experience in Yahoo! Canada Personals was. It definitely will be a once in a lifetime experience.

Getting excited? There’s more! Yahoo! Canada Personals is an extensive community and provides flexible choices for it’s members. They are “casual dating” or “serious relationship”. Casual dating allows you to search and create a profile for free; you can send email and instant messages at a lower monthly fee. Serious relationship is suitable for people who are looking for longer relationships. It provides free relationship tests, you can use to find your perfect match and lead you to a second date at an affordable monthly fee. It’s all worthwhile because Yahoo! Canada Personals’ powerful matching system saves your time and energy by only focusing on someone who is compatible with you.

If you are at all anxious about safety, relax. Yahoo! Canada Personals provides 5-star safety programming, giving you a quality-dating environment without the worry.

Why wait for the next moment? Right now is the best time to join Yahoo! Canada Personals!

With the widespread popularity of Internet dating services has come an entirely new set of rules for Internet dating – Internet dating etiquette. Here are some Internet dating etiquette guidelines to follow to make sure that your Internet dating is effective, non-offensive, and safe.

• Start small and show you read the profile – Rather than using the personals service email system to send the story of your life to your potential date, write a short paragraph simply introducing yourself. Include a line or two that directly addresses something that you read in the recipient’s dating profile. This will show the recipient that you aren’t just taking a shot in the dark!
• Make sure the interest is mutual – Ask the person directly to review your Internet dating profile and reply if they’re interested.
• Choose a mode of conversation that you’re both comfortable with – Some Internet dating service users will want to keep things virtual for awhile, while others will be ready to give you their phone number right away.
• Don’t assume familiarity when you meet in person – Meeting someone from a single dating service in person for the first time is like starting over – you realize that you don’t know nearly as much about the person as you thought and it can be quite shocking!
• Take things slow – The secret to turning an internet dating site attraction into a lasting relationship is to go at a realistic pace. Internet dating sites tend to create quick connections that crash and burn. To make things last, slow them down!

By following these Internet dating etiquette tips, you’ll be sure to impress your potential Internet dating service dates and make a great first impression!

Want to find a long-lasting relationship that might lead you to a marriage? Then try eHarmony.com!

eHarmony.com has already made a positive impact in the dating world for millions of people across the globe. On an average day, over 90 members marry from eHarmony.com. Plus, recent research by the American Psychological Society shows that married couples who met using eHarmony.com are significantly happier than those who met by other means. A huge number of people have already tried it and it’s still growing very fast in Canada, which means someone out there is waiting for you!

Why can eHarmony.com create such enormous success? Dr. Neil Clark Warren, who is the well-known relationship expert, best-selling author and clinical psychologist, built its system. In 2000, Dr. Warren built a scientific matching system: Compatibility Matching System™. It is a fun, comprehensive, and sophisticated system that provides a deepened insight for you and your ideal partner. Then, the system will find the best matches for you. That’s right, the best! Since the system is based on 29 key dimensions to test your personality based on traits like “emotional temperament,” “social style,” “physicality,” “relationship skills,” and “values and beliefs,” it has been proven to predict healthier and happier relationships.

With over 14 million members and over 10 thousand new members daily, eHarmony has established a strong base of members for you to choose from. Join now and become one of their newest success stories.